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2008 Speaking of Women's Health notes

Get organized!  Can you afford not to?

 

First and foremost - NO SAVINGS IS TOO SMALL TO BE WORTH IT!

If you can save $10 a week on groceries, that is $520 a year.  $1.69 a day on soda, that’s $616 a year. $20 a month on cell phone bill, that’s $240 a year.  $49 a month on cable, that’s $588 a year for TV.

 

Bank

v    Checking Account

o       Avoid overdraft fees and account fees (most banks offer free accounts, free overdraft protection, free visits to the bank) shop around for bank accounts.  If your bank has free on-line bill pay, take advantage of it.  You can save on checks, stamps, envelops and late fees due to payments not being received on time.

o       ATMs - Not using your brand ATM could cost up to $3 at the machine, but your bank could also charge a fee for using another machine.  Getting $40 out could cost you up to $46.

v    Credit Cards

o       Limit the number of credit cards you have.  1 of every 7 Americans has 10+ credit cards.  This can negatively affect your ability to get a loan or future credit.  If you’re going to cut up your card, close the account in writing and have the company send a confirmation letter for your records.

o       Pay off your credit card balances every month.  If that is currently impossible, cut up all but one emergency card and start paying them down.  Make the min payment on all but the highest interest card, get that one paid off and start working on the rest.  Live within your means every month.  If you can’t afford it this month, you probably can’t afford it next month.

o       smartcreditchoices.com great website to research credit card offers  

o       800-5-OPT-OUT     helps get less or eliminate credit card offers

v    Late Fees

o       If you pay for something with store credit to get a discount, pay off your balance while still at the cash register.  Then you won’t have another bill to look forward to at the end of the month.

o       Late fees for everything from cell phone bills, credit cards, utility bills etc can be up to $29 plus in many cases interest.  This also affects your credit score.  If you know you are going to be late on a payment, call the company and work out a date to get it in by or a payment plan.  Many times you can avoid finance charges all together by just calling ahead of time. 

v    Reward Programs

o       Don’t buy stuff just to get points for reward programs like airline miles, speedway rewards etc.  My husband didn’t want me using cash to buy groceries, because we could earn airline miles for all that money spent.  However, when I don’t use cash, I was spending $500-700 a month.  Now I spend $400.  I’m sure we aren’t getting enough miles to make up for the $1200-3600 extra I was spending on groceries every year.

 

 

 

Clothing/Accessories

v    Need

o       Know what you have before buying to prevent duplicates.  For organization sake, when you get a new white shirt because the old one has underarm stains, throw out the old one.

v    Retail Price

o       I want to give you a new way to think of shopping…Retail Price = Sucker Price.  When I worked at a department store and saw everything go on sale all the time, I always thought it was so interesting how willing people were to pay full retail price.  Almost everything goes on sale - wait for it!

o       Clearance Racks - shop after season sales for next year

o       Other good options include thrift shops, garage sales, consignment shops, even craigslist.com or eBay

v    Selection

o       Buy colors/styles that you can mix/match.

o       This suggestion would seem silly to even mention if I had not heard it from so many clients.  DON’T buy something in the wrong size or color, just because it is too good of a price to pass up.  No price is that good!

o       When I got my glasses, I found some I really liked, and then the lady pointed out these that were almost identical, but were covered 100% by my insurance.  The other glasses would have been $60.  Sometimes settling is worth the savings.  In the long run, I’ve had these almost 2 years; I’m tired of the style and ready to move on to another look.  Good thing I didn’t waste that $60.

v    Returns

o       Keep your receipts.  If you change your mind on a purchase, return it.  Most stores have generous return policies.

 

 

Communication

v    Cell Phones

o       myrateplan.com  - compares all available cell phone company/plans

o       Check your texts/minutes two days before your monthly minutes reset, adjust plan if you need to.  We got billed $90 overage for 200 minutes one month.  Had I called before the month was over to find out we were over, I could have upped the plan by 700 minutes for only $20. 

o       Pictures/text - if you don’t want this capability, block it.  If you do want it, buy a package.

o       Do your kids consistently go over on cell phone minutes or text/pic messages?  If they won’t listen, make them pay all overage charges, take the phone or get them a pre-paid cell phone with limited minutes.  You are the parent….we didn’t grow up with cell phones, if they can’t be responsible with them; they can grow up without them as well.

v    Discounts/Warranties

o       411 calls (typically $1.99 call) - dial 800-free411 you listen to 2-10 second ads and get free 411.

o       Find out if you can get a discount on your bills through your work.  My husband works at Miami Valley and we get a discount on our cell phone and YMCA membership through his job…two things we were already paying for.

o       saveonphone.com  - compares long distance companies       

o       lowermybills.com - offers a lot of information from insurance, to debts, credit cards, phone, internet, mortgages etc.

o       Extended warranties - according to consumer advocates, most extended warranties are a waste of money and should be turned down.  Never get an extended warranty unless it is offered directly through the manufacturer.  Home and car warranties can sometimes be exceptions to this rule.

v    TV

o       We all enjoy our TVs but have you ever considered life without cable/satellite?  With the new HD programming, there are now between 13-20 local channels you can get with bunny ears.  Try turning it off for 3 months.  My parents did this and the cable company offered to put a 6 month freeze on their account and hook it back up free if they changed their minds.  You have nothing to loose.  If you must be able to record shows, TIVO is much cheaper than cable. www.dtv2009.gov

 

Eating Out

v    Budget

o       Give yourself a monthly budget.

o       Box up half your meal before eating.  You’ll be less tempted to over eat and have a meal left over for later.

o       If you just feel the need to get out, pack food and eat somewhere different.  You can have a home packed picnic at the mall food court in bad weather.  Be creative.

o       Share meals.  Ask for them to be split, you often get more food.

o       Many places like Applebee’s have happy hour, where appetizers are ½ price.  If you are just looking for an inexpensive place to sit and gab over food, this might be a good option.

v    Coupons

o       Don’t be afraid to use coupons.  Almost everyone offers them now-a-days. They even print out on the back of some grocery receipts.  However, give tips based on the full price and do not go to a tipping restaurant unless you can afford to tip well.  There are plenty of nice places like Chipotle, Pot Belly and Panera that have sit-down atmosphere without tipping.

o       Use frequent shopper cards like Cici’s pizza; you buy like 5 meals get the 6th free.

v    Kids

o       Give them a set amount and let them choose.  A good method for fast food is giving them enough money for two of the cheapest menu items.  They can choose to get a drink and cheap item, two items or one more expensive one.  You are teaching them values for life. Grandma used to give us $1.60 for Taco Bell.

o       Look for kids eat free nights.

 

Energy Bills

v    Budget

o       Getting DP&L and Vectrin set up on budget billing can make your monthly bills more predictable and easier to budget for.  Then you don’t get hit with those surprise $400 bills in the dead of winter or scorching heat of summer.

v    Heat/Air-Conditioning

o       You can save 1% on your energy bill for every degree cooler/warmer you keep your house for an 8 hour period.  So if you kept your house 1 degree cooler for 24 hours you’d save 3% on your bill

o       866-674-6327   low income home energy assistance program

v    Appliances

o       Turn down your water heater.  Next to your furnace, your water heater uses more energy than any other appliance in your home. Turning it down from 140 to 120 can save up to 10% on your energy bills.  If you have a larger family, turn it down 5 degree at a time until you get complaints there’s not enough hot water.  Then turn it back up 5 degrees.  This will be your new minimum temp. 

o       Re-use towels.  Who thinks this is unsanitary?  Do you change your sheets everyday?  You don’t always go to bed after a shower; you loose skin cells, hair, sweat, and drool…all while you sleep.  Reusing your towels is much more sanitary than that.

o       Florescent light bulbs use 75% less energy and last 10 times as long as standard incandescent bulbs.

o       Older appliances can use a ton of energy. My sister had an extra freezer in her garage.  She decided not to use it and unplugged it, then discovered she had been paying between $40-50 to run it.  My new refrigerator I believe uses like $20 a year to run.  If you must have the appliance, consider the cost of replacing with a more energy efficient model.  We had a 54 year old furnace.  Worked like a charm, but .60c of every dollar we paid to heat our home went up the flu.  It made sense for us to replace the furnace to a 95% energy efficient model so only .05c now goes up the flu.

v    Home Improvement

o       Anyone who gives my husband an estimate that is only good today, my husband would never hire.  That is a pressure tactic and shows that their product cannot simply sell itself.

o       Take your time on big purchases.  Research price, quality and time of year.  Chimney cleaning - not in the fall, heating - during the summer, air - late winter/early spring, indoor renovations - winter or rainy months.   Roofing - cold rainy months.  We had two huge trees we wanted removed, but didn’t want to pay $600 a tree for removal.  Last winter, a tree company came around hurting for work and removed one tree and 4 bushes for $300.  The other tree was uprooted in that wind storm and fell in the street so the city removed it.  Good things come to those who wait.

o       Be knowledgeable about what needs to be done.  We had a crack in the basement wall that was leaking and pooling.  We called 4 companies out for an estimate.  Two were $300 and they injected something in the crack to seal it up, one wanted close to a thousand and they would create a crack in the floor along the wall and create drainage for the water.  The last company wanted $16,000, but if we decided today, they could do it for $13,500 because he had a crew that didn’t have work for the week.  They would dig out all the dirt around the entire foundation of the house, seal the entire foundation with a black tar coating and back fill the dirt.   After researching the problem on the internet, my husband pushed more dirt against the house creating a little drain off and made sure the gutter was draining far enough away from the house.  That was last winter and we haven’t seen a drop of water in the basement since.

 

Entertainment

v    Packages/Memberships

o       Look for package deals - you want to go bowling?  Call around, find out the best time of day/week and if there are packages.  Near our house, up to 6 people can bowl on one lane for 2 hours with a large pizza and soda for $30 on Sundays.  6 people for only one game, shoes, pizza and soda would normally be around $50.  And that’s only one game.

o       You can almost always get b1/g1 deals for zoos and museums.  Call ahead to ask where you can get coupons before going

o       Get memberships like Boonshoft, Cosi, Zoo, Kings Island, but don’t use that as an excuse to buy the over priced food and gift shop stuff.  Pack your snacks and take a picture to remember the day.

o       If you have memberships like a gym membership, tanning membership etc use it or lose it!  Elizabeth had gym for $39 a month and tanning for $21 a month for over a year without ever setting foot in either.  That was over $720 wasted that year. 

v    Free Fun

o       Ask about free admission days.  Cosi is generally free one day a year, the day before Thanksgiving.  Call ahead to make sure it still is.

o       Look in the paper or online for free concerts and events

o       Join free social or educational groups

o       Check your books out at the library instead of buying every one you want to read.  You can have books transferred from library to library as well.

v    Stay Home

o       Set up a real tent in your living room and roast marshmallows in the fireplace.

o       Stay in and try out a new recipe.  Let everyone do part or add to the decision making.

o       Rent a movie instead of going out

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gifts

v    Budget

o       Give yourself a gift budget.  Maybe you decide not to spend more than $10 per person for the 14 people you buy for at Christmas.  If you only spend $5 on 3 people, that’s $15 more if you’d like to splurge on someone else.

v    Be Creative

o       It’s the thought that counts.  All my nieces and nephew are getting a mason jar bank this year for Christmas.  I got the ½ gal jars free on freecycle.com and I’m buying lids and decorating them special for each kid, then I’ll give $5.00 in change and bills to each kid to get them started saving.  No more toys for their parents to get rid of.

o       If you insist on getting gifts for everyone for every occasion or have a lot of people to shop for, start a gift box.  If you need a last minute gift, you just might have one on hand.  If you re-gift something, put the name of who gave it to you so you won’t accidently re-gift it to them.

v    Birthday Party

o       Instead of throwing an expensive birthday party for 10 kids, save yourself the trouble and offer your child the opportunity to take 1 friend somewhere really fun.  You’ll save a lot of time and headache and probably make a more memorable day for your little one.  Plus you probably won’t end up with so many un-necessary gifts cluttering up your house.

v    Special Day

o       Make a day special.  One of my best friend’s birthdays is tomorrow, and she’s here today, so for her birthday I wanted all of you to sing Happy Birthday to her…her name is Leann.  See, that gift was free and she will never forget it!  In all seriousness, I’m taking her out for a bite to eat and a chat without our kids for her birthday.  Make memories without breaking the bank.

o       Give kids a card that says “grandma’s going to take you out and you can spend $10 any way you choose.”  Then you’re making a memory and they’re excited to have the power to take you where ever they want.

v    Gift Cards

o       Don’t give gift cards unless you are sure someone will use the whole thing.  Give cash with a note of intent instead.  “I wanted to give you $25 to use for dinner at the Cheesecake Factory, but feel free to use however you wish.”  10% of all gift cards sold in the US are never used accounting for 8 BILLION dollars in unused gift cards.   Even prepaid debit cards may not get fully used, and often you have to pay up to 10% processing fee to purchase them.  The person receiving the gift will be thrilled with cold hard cash.

 

 

Groceries

Who has been feeling helpless to do anything about the cost of groceries?  According to the Farm Bureau Federation, the price of groceries is up 8.5% from this time last year.   Does anyone here know how much the US government considers a moderate weekly grocery budget for a family of 4?  $182 a week which is over $750 a month, which made me feel a little better about the fact that I was spending between $500-$700 a month for my family of 4, but I knew I could do better.  I currently spend $100 a week for all my groceries, diapers, cleaning supplies, dog food, toilet paper etc.  You can’t do this without a little thought and planning, but it can be done! 

$100 a week provides $1.19 per person, per meal if all that money was actually spent on food.  A few quick tips:  Don’t shop hungry, full is even better,

 

v    Grocery Lists

o       Always use a list and stick to it.

o       Create yourself a shopping list of your most commonly purchased items.  Every time you shop or read ads, write the lowest price you find, then you will know if you are getting a good deal or not.

v    Quality

o       Try out off brands.  Many things like vegetables are all put in cans at the manufacturing plant, then some receive name brand labels, some get store brand labels.  It’s the same can of tomatoes with a different label. 

o       Be sure to look at ingredients.  Some off brands put a lot more fillers/sugars/corn syrups etc in.  For instance, Ovalteen has many vitamins; the store brand almost has none. 

o       Protein - Americans in general get far too much protein and in general too high saturated fat content.  Look into less expensive protein sources such as eggs, beans, and tuna. If you buy less expensive cuts of meat, the crock pot is a great way to soften a tough cut.

o       The least expensive foods are often the healthiest - dry beans, fresh produce.

v    Sales

o       Request a rain check when advertised sale item is not in stock

o       Start looking at your weekly grocery ads before going shopping.  When you make your menu and grocery list for the week, base it on what’s on sale, not just what you’re in the mood for.  If chicken is $1.88 lb that week, plan to make chicken based meals. 

o       Stock up when items are at their best price.  Revolving sales - About every 6 weeks, my $13.99 laundry detergent goes on sale for buy one, get 2 free.   I buy 3 and it lasts me until the next sale.  

v    Bulk

o       Be careful buying in bulk.  If your family cannot use the large amount before it goes bad, it’s not a good deal. 

o       Baggie your own snacks.  You can get 16 oz of cheese-its in a box for less than 6 oz in individual packs.  For the same price, you can get 24 oz of apple sauce in individual containers for the same price as a jar with 48oz.  Even fruit snacks, raisins, chips, cookies are cheaper when bought in packages and put in baggies. 

o       On your shopping day, open all your bulk items, baggie them up and have a basket full of snack baggies, then packing lunches is just as easy for a fraction of the price.

v    Expiration Dates

o       How many of us have problems using all our food before it goes bad?  Do you throw much produce/left over’s away? 

o       Start a game with yourself called the “I can’t go shopping until we are literally out of food game.  This can be fun and maybe you’ll learn some new recipes.  If you have a little bit of several veggies left, half a loaf of bread that’s getting stale and some cheese, make a pot of veggie soup and grilled cheese.  Empty your kitchen before restocking it.

o       If your family doesn’t eat bread before it goes bad, only keep several pieces out of the freezer at a time.  I like whole wheat, my husband likes Italian, we also like whole wheat English muffins and bagels but we can’t eat it all up in a week, so we only pull out a couple days supply at a time.

v    Coupons

o       Couponmom.com - a great place to learn about all kinds of deals

o       Only 1.26% of the 300 billion coupons are used every year.

o       Only use coupons when combined with a great sale.  If a box of cereal is on sale 2/4 and you have a coupon for .50 off…that is doubled at most stores and you only pay $1.00 for that box of cereal.  I generally will never pay more than $1.50 for any box of cereal.  Coupons are only good if you were already going to buy the product and it’s on sale.  With double coupons at Meijer and Kroger, sometimes I even get things for free.  Takes a little planning, but it’s well worth the time.

o       Dayton Daily News has 2 coupon sections - clip only the items you know your family uses or those you would like to try if the price were right.  Often companies will give coupons which will make items free when combined with a sale to get you to try it.  Remember, it’s not a deal if your family won’t use it.  I just spent $3.78 for $35.24 in groceries at Meijer.  Coupons for 3 packs of wipes, 4 jars baby food, 2 premade formula, 80 pack diapers and 2 suave body wash plus transferred a prescription with $15 coupon from entertainment book.

v    Rebates

o       If you buy something because of a rebate, turn it in.  I bought 4 new tires last December because mine had very low tread and they were offering $500 in free gas.  The tires were almost $400.  All I had to do was buy $100 a month of gas from the same station and mail copies of the receipts in and I would get $25 gift card every month for 20 months.  I just got my first $200 in gift cards this week after mailing everything in timely and making about 5 follow-up calls.  It will end up costing me about $25 in copies and postage earning me $475 for my trouble.

o       Rite Aid has single check rebates.  You can shop each week, even buying only the things that will be free, and at the end of the month enter all receipts on-line and get one check for the month without even paying for a stamp. 

 

Kids

v    Babies

o       Make your own baby food.  All you have to do is steam veggies in the microwave and puree them with water.  Smash your own banana.  You can get several whole bananas for the price of one jar of baby food bananas.  Natural applesauce is the same in the big jar as it is in the baby jar, add some rice cereal to it and you’ve got breakfast.  100% juice in big bottles is the same as baby juice. Water it down and it will be fine.  Puree whatever you’re having for dinner.

o       Cloth diapers are cheaper, but are they worth it.  When babies are little and their poo is runny, it’s really hard to clean. But when they get formed poo, you can just dump it in the toilet and put the diaper in a pail of lightly bleached water.  Up to you, but may be worth a try.

v    Kids

o       Garage sale and thrift shop a season in advance for clothes

o       Find second hand sporting gear after a season ends.  If you know your son will be in football next year, look for gear at the end of this season.

o       You can even get brand new toys from kids who had too many or got duplicates much cheaper than retail on eBay, craigslist or at thrift stores.

o       Lots of Halloween costumes are also sold on eBay craigslist or thrift stores.  Buy now for next year.

o       Most things you can buy new, you can also find gently used - we wanted a juicer, but didn’t want to spend over $100 for a new one.  Just bought an almost new one on craigslist for $25

v    Teens

o       Who here had a cell phone as a teenager?  Who here had a new car as a teenager?  Anyone here wear something that was not name brand as a teenager?  Of those of you who raised your hands, did it kill any of you? 

o       Stop catering to them just because they whine!  Anyone feel like a walking ATM with your teenagers?

o       In my family, it was understood that if you wanted to drive, you had to have insurance money, gas money and $100 repair in the bank before we could get our license.  Offer way to make money and leave the rest up to the kids. They will do much better having learned financial responsibility before graduating high school than figuring it out after graduation.

o       Come up with a reasonable clothing, entertainment budget.  $35 is enough to buy a nice pair of gym shoes, if they want something more expensive, have them pay the balance.  Give them a set amount for eating out, make up, movies etc.  Maybe $10 a week and let them prioritize how to spend it.  After the first huge fit they throw because they don’t have money to go to the movies, they’ll learn. 

o       Most important, don’t give in to tantrums!  Not at 2, not at 10, not at 15 and not at 17.  That’s not how they’ll get things in the real world either.

 Pets

v    Adopt a Pet

o       Don’t buy.  Craig’s list/newspaper is full of animals people are giving away for free. Many of which they paid a lot of money for.  My sister just waits for people to decide they don’t want to take care of a pet, and then she gets them and all the cages/food for free with them.

v    Veterinarian

o       Choose your vet wisely.  Shop around.  I got estimates on a dental cleaning for my Jack Russell terrier to find a vet.  I got estimates from $80 to $240 for the same service.  I went with the $80 and have a vet office I now love.

o       Look into spay/neuter/vaccine deals.  Sisca offers low-cost spay/neuter.

o        Go to vet school to have them care for the animals.  In the same way, you can go to beauty school for your hair cut/colors, dental school for cheap cleanings, and massage school for them to practice.  It’s all supervised and is a fraction of the cost you’ll pay elsewhere.

v    Home Care

o       Give your dog vaccines.  You can buy on-line for under $10 instead of paying a vet $100.  If we can deliver a baby ladies, we can stick a needle in our dog’s leg once a year.

o       Clip your own dog’s nails

o       Check out a dog training book at the library, read thoroughly and try what it says before paying for dog obedience school.  It takes a lot of time either way, why waste the money. Your friends with dogs may also have good tips.

 

Vacations

v    Airlines

o       airfarewatchdog.com gives you all the deals leaving from your departure city.  You can sign up for alerts for new deals.   They will also tell you if there are near by cities with better deals.

o       Kayak.com will tell you when the best of the week/month is to buy.

v    Vacation Deals

o       Research, look for deals, and travel in the off seasons.

o       EBay - people who have timeshares they aren’t using, sell them for cheaper just to get them used (Like my friend) Just look under vacations.

o       Timeshares - great way to get a cheap vacation.  You get 4 days/3 nights at a resort and all you have to do is sit through a 45 minute presentation and take a tour through the resort.  Just don’t buy it.  My friend ended up spending $24,000 over 10 years for a 4 days/3 nights stay at a resort.  That was one expensive vacation! They could have shown up, sat through the presentation, thanked the company for the stay at a nice resort and enjoyed their vacation.  Show up, but let someone else fall for the pitch.

o       Military - afvclub.com has discounted vacation packages only available to those in the armed forces.

v    Be Flexible

o       Did you ever plan for a vacation to go something like this….and end up with something like this?  You plan for vacation to be amazing, and then it rains the entire time.  Plan for the worst, hope for the best.  If you don’t build it up too much, you can even have fun when things don’t turn out as planned.

v    Be creative

o       Pack snacks or mini-meals.  Limit eating out to one meal a day.

o       Look for local places.  At the Sauerkraut Festival in Waynesville, water was $2.50 a bottle.  When we got to the center of town, I ran in the local grocery store and got 5 sodas and a water for my family for $5.10.  Think outside the box!

 

Vehicles

v    Gas

o       Plan out your trips to economize on gas.

o       Put car in neutral when sitting still or rolling up to a red light to conserve on gas

o       You can save 10-20% on gas mileage by not braking/accelerating excessively

o       Turn car off for waits of more than one minute.  Any wait over 30 seconds costs more in gas to keep it running than to turn it off and restart when you’re ready to go again.  Long waits at drive-thus or waiting for someone to run in a store is a good time for this.

o       Keeping tires properly inflated reduces friction on the road thus saving gas money.

o       Only use the air conditioning when driving over 40 mph.  Roll windows down when driving slower.

v    Maintenance

o       Keep your car properly maintained. 

o       Almost everyone offers coupons for oil changes.  Don’t be afraid to ask if they have any coupons out.  I went to Grismer on Tuesday and asked how much an oil change is.  I was told $26.  I asked if they had any coupons or specials.  He gave me the $17 coupon price.  Most of the time they will honor a coupon even if you don’t have it to keep your business. 

o       Shop around for estimates on other services like tires, brakes etc.

v    Insurance/Roadside Assistance

o       When purchasing anything - even car insurance, car parts etc. make sure you’re comparing apples to apples.  Get lots of info before deciding.  Don’t make financial decisions on an impulse.

o       I used to pay $75 for AAA roadside assistance, but now only pay $16 a year through my insurance for better coverage.  Find out what discounts you can get through your auto insurance.

o       Almost had my car towed.  Had my sister pick me and the girls up, later my mom took me out to get the battery tested which was fine, hooked it up and turns out it just had a loose connection.  Had I had it towed, I would have paid a mechanic to tell me that.

 

 

 

THE SECRET TO HAVING IT ALL is realizing you don’t literally need to have it all.   Better stated, the secret to having it all is believing that you truly already have it all